“I could not, at any age, be content to take my place by the fireside and simply look on. Life was meant to be lived. Curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.” Eleanor Roosevelt
I advise people to mentally step back from their problems by observing patterns throughout their life.
Patterns are all around us, whether it be via people’s behaviours or the patterns of life.
I have come to realise, when something appears untoward, it is laying the foundations for something greater to unfold further down the road.
If I’m to judge the experience based on first impressions, I would judge it as an unfortunate event and try to solve the problem.
If I am patient and allow the process to unfold, it will do so of its own accord without me judging the condition as unfavourable.
For example, you may be late for an appointment and be held up by traffic. You think it’s terrible because you’ll be late to your appointment.
But what if the delay turns out to be a blessing in disguise?
What if that delay is re-routing you to a different location to help someone in need?
Or to discover something you’ve been looking for?
Or prevent you from being involved in a similar car accident?
What I’m saying is, you are a tiny piece in a puzzle within a grander scheme orchestrating itself every moment of the day.
You are a pawn in a chess game that has millions of pieces simultaneously moving across the board.
This doesn’t mean you’re not important in the scheme of things. Rather, if you judge something on first impressions, you miss out on seeing what is likely to unfold later on.
Psychotherapist David Richo writes in “The Five Things We Cannot Change: And The Happiness We Find By Embracing Them” that we lack the trust to accept how life will play out:
“We worry because we do not trust ourselves to handle what happens to us. We worry because we do not trust that the way the chips fall will work out for the best. We worry because we have not yet said yes.”
So suspend your judgement and avoid reacting to situations by practicing infinite patience.
Look for patterns throughout your life and refer to the past when similar conditions turned out in your favour.
Nothing is as unwelcoming as it first appears, it is only your thoughts that add meaning and context to a situation.
Step back and let life unravel the pieces of the puzzle before you judge something as good or bad.
In doing so, you realise that life is always serving you but not in the way you imagine.