The new year is here, new year’s resolutions are the perfect opportunities for those who have messed up to make a change.
Growing up in a Christian home was hard enough, having to attend a Christian high school was harder. As the pastor’s daughter, a lot of responsibilities were expected of me. The pressure to be ‘born again’ was more than I could shoulder, so when I got my admission into college, the freedom was overwhelming that I fell into the wrong company. Partying, Prostitution were my thing, Fashion and Material things were my priority while Education was a game not to be taken seriously.
After I had my baby, a new year resolution helped me change, helped my already messy life, helped me set my priority right and be the perfect girl in my world. So tell me, what’s that bad habit you need to drop this year?
It is said that “Procrastination is a thief of time”. Many people believe in this but still can’t help but procrastinate. Procrastination is that urge to relax and do something fun when you should be working. This is considered as a bad habit as it is the biggest barrier that keeps you from reaching your goals. Determination helps well in dealing with procrastination, the “Do it now” principle works for me as well while dealing with procrastination. As my teacher would say, “When it comes to your mind, DO IT! “
This also has to do with time management. Punctuality is a virtue held in high esteem in the society. Stop being late and start being on time, it’s a mark of professionalism and integrity and it portrays you are dependable, competent. Some free tricks to help you be on time are plan ahead, plan for trouble (just incase) and set reminders.
Uncontrolled anger can land you in lots of trouble. Different emotions actually like Jealousy and Pride can be dangerous if they are not being controlled. Learn to gain control over your emotions as it helps you to be rational and level- headed. The steps to controlling your emotions especially anger include; trying to understand why you feel that way, sometimes understanding emotions can make you calm, then try to choose how you react, that’s the hardest but most important part. Control your emotions, do not let it direct you.
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According to Oscar Wilde, “Be who you are, everybody else is already taken.” Why pretend? Why live a fake life? Why be who you are not? People do that for so many reasons, I did that too, because I wanted to belong. But you don’t have to belong, you need to be self-confident, the world need more of that now. Being who you are makes you unique and self confident people are easily noticed. If you don’t feel happy being yourself, probably because of bad experiences, then you should re-mold yourself. An anonymous person said, “When something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you“. All you need to do is build yourself a new image, accept whatever happened and resume your journey, try new things out and be brave. To be self confident; accept challenges, admit you are wrong, celebrate both your small and big wins.
Great minds talk about ideas while small minds talk about people. This falls under time management too. Learn to spend your time judiciously and spending time gossiping instead of doing real work is common among ladies. Remember time waits for no man. You can even set a timetable for what you should do and when you should do it. There would always be time for fun, you just need the right time, there is time for everything.
It is cool to go partying or even go clubbing with the girls sometimes, it is cool to have fun, but too much of everything is not good. The negative side of partying is associated with dangerous stuffs like rape, drug and alcohol addiction. To stop partying at least for a while till you set your priorities right; start moving with friends who don’t party all the time and find new hobbies.
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• Drinking: It’s better not to drink at all if you can’t drink responsibly. How do you get to stop drinking when you are already addicted? Identify what triggers you to drink and try to stay away from it as much as possible. Most importantly, reward your progress.
• Smoking: Smoking is another bad habit, it won’t only endanger your health but it will also bore a hole in your wallet. Giving up smoking takes a lot of effort, so to give it up you need serious determination. To stop smoking is a gradual step, you can cut your intake before you cut everything finally. Take it one step at a time, “A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.” Stay away from smokers, let your family or anybody be your support to keep cigarettes away from you.
• Phone Addiction: Picking up good helpful skills can prove productive with time. Dedicate your time to what will yield better result and improve you and not just sit around doing nothing, focusing on your phone. Most youths of today are addicted to their phone instead of learning new things and reading. Where your phone can’t take you, what you know upstairs (from reading) will take you there. It’s time to make a change and stop being addicted to social media. Start tracking your time online.
• Prostitution and Masturbation: These are sexual sins and very bad habits. Most ladies join prostitution for material things while masturbation comes in from the need to get sexual satisfaction. Ladies your body shouldn’t be sold in return for material things, I’m sure you can get material things by having a decent job. And for masturbation, you don’t need to help yourself. How do I quit masturbation/prostitution?; You didn’t become addicted overnight, you won’t get free overnight, either. So realize it’s a gradual process. Masturbation consumes lots of energy, find a place to put all that energy into good use. Also, you need a buddy, someone to confide in, probably a counselor that would help you each step of the way. Quitting isn’t easy, but it’s a battle you can win.
These are just to mention a few, you can even add yours. Every time we use a habit, we etch in it. So to stop a bad habit, you need to replace them with good ones.