As humans it’s been tested and proven time and again that saying you will do something is far far easier than actually doing it. According to a survey I performed last year December, greater than 80 percent of my friends were saying words like “in the new year, things will change” meaning even before the new year, they have started making new year resolutions. Of course, you don’t make resolutions only on the new year but the new year signifies grace for a fresh start.
Some people have decided this year 2020 is the year for making more money, losing weight, dropping bad habits and pursuing their dreams. Research shows that January 17 is the last day 88% of us finally give up on our resolutions. But why?
Irrespective of what your new year resolutions may be, here are some reasons you might not be one of the 12 percent that succeed in it.
When we make new year resolutions, we tend to expect results as soon as possible but that’s not how it works. Slow and steady wins the race, it starts with a small change before the big results come.
Too big goals
Deciding to make a big change all at once causes you to end up giving up if the big task proves impossible. That big change is preceded by the littlest of changes that should be focused on.
Wrong or no motivation
From the excitement a new year brings, we make a list of promises to ourselves but as the excitement wears off we forget some of the promises. And even the ones we remember, we no longer find the drive to keep us going. In this case, we know what to do, but can’t find why we are to do it.
Not believing in yourself
You might have failed a couple times in the past, this plants doubt in your head. Doubt is that nagging voice that keeps questioning your decision and can end up killing your motivation. Believing in yourself is the necessary requirement to achieving that goal.
Dropping bad habits isn’t meant to be easy, sometimes it gets to a stage you miss the habits. Take for example, for an alcoholic, to quit drinking he reduces the number of bottles he takes by the day and gradually replaces beer with a soft drink. As the process is monotonous, one day you get bored and give yourself a treat to a bottle and just like that all your progress vanishes. Sometimes trying too hard can make the process really boring.
Thinking and not doing doesn’t move you an inch on the track of success. Whatever knowledge you have on your goal, not realistically applying it can cause the goal not to be achieved.
Whatever your goal can be, studies show that telling someone else what your goal is helps to keep you accountable. It can be hard to stay motivated when you feel alone. Social media can be put to good use here, join a group of like minded folks on the internet, talk to your work colleague or a friend who might or might not share your goal. It surely goes a long way.
Here are some tips to prevent your new year resolutions from failing;
- Make your goal more specific
- Keep your goal attainable n reasonable
- Be true with yourself . Know what you want and why you want it.
- Don’t procrastinate
- Focus on the important actions, if it’s not important don’t worry about it.
- Believe in yourself
- Be patient, there is no fast and easy.
- Don’t try too hard